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Are You Ready To Unleash Your Inner Adventurer? You Better Be!

July 05, 20235 min read

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out all fear.” - 1 John 4:18 (ESV)

Are You Ready to Unleash Your Inner Adventurer to Find New Love?

It's time to unleash your inner adventurer and break free from the confines of your comfort zone.

When the Holy Spirit was guiding me on my path to new love, I experienced a lot of discomforts. But some of the fear and doubt I experienced were because I was trying to find new love on my own.

Friend, this is a mistake! I know, because I made this mistake!!!!

The Holy Spirit did guide me to a dating site where I met my sweetheart.

But prior to that, I had been on a dating site that I “figured out” would be a good place to find love. I knew someone who had met her husband on this site, and I thought I would step out of my comfort zone and put my profile there.

Well, I met men. But they were not the right men. When we have more time I can tell you some horror stories!

Trust me! Stepping outside your comfort zone is important, but do it as the Holy Spirit guides you. Don’t step outside His best for you!

"Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established." - Proverbs 16:3 (ESV)

Do you have the courage to embrace the unknown?

When you use the heart-healing process you learned in the Widowed to Wedded Journey you learn to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit. In this deep-listening mode, there is no telling what God may ask you to do. You can’t predict where He will ask you to go!

Venturing into the unknown can be intimidating but remember that God has promised to establish your plans when you commit them to Him.

By stepping outside your comfort zone, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities and pave the way for love to enter your life in ways you never imagined.

Discover New Horizons

As you listen to the Holy Spirit, He will reveal to you new horizons within yourself.

Maybe you have always had an interest in taking beautiful pictures, but you never would let yourself experiment with it.

Why not?

Many of us don’t want to be a beginner. I understand! It’s awkward to have to learn something new.

If you refuse to explore with Him, staying within the boundaries of your comfort zone limits your potential for growth and new experiences.

As King David reminds us in Psalms, "He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake" (Psalm 23:2-3, ESV).

If you have seeds of greatness in the area of photography you will find that taking pictures makes you happy. Maybe the first photos you take won’t win any awards.

Who cares? Just press the delete button and try again!

If God has planted seeds of a photographer in your heart, those seeds will bear fruit if you water the plant.

Trust in God's guidance and let Him lead you towards new horizons, where love and rejuvenation await.

Embrace the Joy of Risk

It is not easy to face the risk of giving your heart to someone new. As much as you may long for a special man, it may be difficult to allow yourself to be open to the risk of rejection or loss.

I still struggle with this. My beloved is 9 years older than I am. It is very likely I will outlive him. When I think about that, I feel myself shrinking back. I don’t want to have that kind of pain again.

But would I give up the joy of his company today? NO WAY!

Love often requires us to take risks and step outside our comfort zones. Remember the words of Jesus, "Take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33, NIV).

Allow the Holy Spirit to help you find the courage within you to embrace the joy of risk, knowing that through Christ, you can conquer any obstacle and find that special love that surpasses all expectations.

Strive For Personal Growth

Stepping outside your comfort zone is a catalyst for personal growth. The Apostle Paul reminds us, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17, ESV).

This has certainly been true for me. I have never met anyone like my beloved. He is one of a kind. And to be totally honest, not every piece of him fits every piece of me. He has interests that I don’t share.

He has some opinions that I don’t agree with.

Sometimes these differences create conflict between us and we have to work things through.

But I am a better, stronger person for having known him. I think he would say the same.

I can see why God brought us together. But it isn’t always easy.

Embrace the transformative power of leaving your comfort zone. Allow yourself to become the best version of yourself.  God’s best for you is a man who will be attracted to your newfound strength.

Enjoy the Thrill of Love

Love is an adventure, and adventures often require us to step outside our comfort zones.

As the Apostle John wrote, "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear" (1 John 4:18, ESV).

Embrace the thrill of love by breaking free from the limitations of your comfort zone and let God’s perfect love for you cast out any lingering fear or doubt that you are more than worthy of finding love again.

When I was on that first dating site, looking for love in my own strength, I met several men. The first one seemed like a very nice man. We had texted, and then we talked on the phone. After a few phone calls I felt like I wanted to meet him.

We agreed to meet for coffee at a Starbucks.

By unleashing your inner adventurer and escaping the confines of your comfort zone, you open yourself up to a world of love and exhilaration.

Trust in God's guidance, embrace the unknown, and let the joy of risk and personal growth propel you towards extraordinary love connections. Remember, God is with you every step of the way, and as you embark on this journey, love awaits just beyond your comfort zone.

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Kristin van Tilburg

Kristin van Tilburg is a Christian Financial Freedom Coach.

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