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Say “yes” to life, and watch your joy expand

Many people confuse pleasure and joy.

Our modern world has given us unparalleled access to pleasure.

Dopamine, the chemical which gives us the experience of pleasure,

is triggered by many things common in the modern world,

but was much less accessible in times past.

The struggle to survive prevented such a focus on pleasure-seeking for most people in times gone by.

But now,

sugar and processed foods,

alcohol,

television and video games,

highly refined drugs,

both legal and illegal,

and many addictive activities that are easily accessed in modern culture,

all provide ways of delivering dopamine hits

which cause us to want more and more pleasure.

And the sad part is that it takes “more and more” dopamine

to provide the same amount of pleasure.

So many of us get ourselves into a vicious cycle of pleasure-seeking

that is often quite destructive to a our wellbeing.

 “Pleasure is always derived from something outside you,  whereas joy arises from within.” — Eckhart Tolle

Joy is a state of being that arises from expressing unconditional LOVE.

I define unconditional LOVE as that creative life force that animates all life.

It is not to be confused with infatuation, or codependent attachment.

LOVE has nothing in common with Hallmark sentimentality.

LOVE is a conscious acceptance of what is arising in the present moment.

It embraces the moment so completely and whole-heartedly

that the glimmers of life itself shine through the circumstances.

So pleasure-seeking, especially when it is elevated to the level of preoccupation, actually interferes with the experience of joy.

So many people are laser-focused on accomplishment in the material realm.

But many who have achieved levels of material success

that most of us will never know

have demonstrated to us the folly of those efforts.

I was deeply affected when Whitney Houston was found

drown in a bathtub in a Las Vegas hotel.

What a tragic end to a life

which should have offered her such joy!

Didn’t she have it all?

Talent?

Beauty?

Wealth?

Fame?

Family?

Adoring fans?

What more could a person ask for from life?

Pleasure-seeking destroyed her life.

And she is only one of many.

If you do not cultivate the ability to access joy,

no amount of pleasure will access it for you.

Unconditional LOVE is a mindset that must be cultivated.

It is a skill which must be practiced and honed.

Unconditional LOVE arises from thoughts of Loving Kindness, Loving Wisdom, and Loving Strength

If you find yourself unfulfilled, dissatisfied, and pleasure-seeking,

use those conditions to alert you

to the need to stop and change your mind.

Notice if you are thinking thoughts about yourself, life, or other people

that are unkind.

Notice if you are thinking thoughts about yourself, life, or other people

that foolish or uninformed.

Notice if you are thinking thoughts of helplessness,

hopelessness,

or victimization.

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Ask yourself, “Are these thoughts giving me access to joy?”

If you find such thoughts, change your mind.

Just because you can.

Resist the temptation to allow circumstances to dictate

what you are thinking.

This discipline is the path to joy.

Joy never results in ill-health, hangovers, debt, shame, loss, or devastated relationships. Pleasure-seeking often does.

What do you want you life to be about?

What do you want to experience?

What you allow yourself to think about

will determine what you experience.

The choice is yours.

Choose wisely.

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