Is Resistance Holding You Back?

Resistance is a sign of inner conflict
Resistance is a sign of inner conflict

What is resistance really? It is a message of internal conflict. One part of us wants to move ahead with some particular action. A second part is saying “Oh, no, we aren’t going there….” A conflict between 2 parts of yourself. and that is if you are lucky.

For most of us, there are often more than 2 parts weighing in on the resistance.

A third part may be saying “I’m not sure I know what I’m doing.” A fourth part may be saying “What will they say about me if I do that?”

Is it clear why you are making progress on this action?

What can you do when you reach an inner impasse?

Bring all your parts together
Bring all your parts together

Have a party!

“Have a party?” you say….”Are you kidding me?”   No, I’m serious…have a party…a parts party.

A parts party is when all the conflicting parts of you sit down at an imaginary conference table, face to face, so to speak.

You sit at the head of the table, and invite all the conflicting parts to join you. Then one at a time, you invite each part to say what they want to say–to express their concerns, their fears, whatever is on their minds.

You moderate the discussion. You listen carefully. You listen respectfully. You honor each part for their contribution, no matter how challenging their perspective is.

Find out from each part what their goal is. Usually the parts are all trying to keep you safe in their own way.

Dive deep with a part if you need to. Bring your adult, resource-filled perspective to the discussion.

Find out what each part needs to feel safe
Find out what each part needs to feel safe

Find out what each part needs to feel safe.

As you take in all these perspectives you will find that you have a much clearer perspective on the situation.

Maybe you see some things more clearly, and you may find that you alter your course in response to the concerns of your parts.

Maybe you need more information. Maybe you need a little skill development. Maybe you need to ask a friend to let you practice on them and give you feedback. Your perspective is broadened. Your view of what is needed to be successful is expanded. Now you find yourself much better prepared.

Usually, when you consider their concerns and needs your parts will come into agreement about a course of action.

Suddenly you find yourself ready to take action with confidence and the task is accomplished with ease. The resistance has disappeared!

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Is the Rhythm In You? Or Did You Crush It Years Ago?

When we live inside a deep connection to our true self life has a rhythm to it. It has to be that way, doesn’t it? We are part of nature, after all, and nature definitely has its rhythms.

The seasons come and go, marking their passages with definite signs. The awakening of Spring, the full bloom of Summer, the harvest of the Fall, and the deep inward time of Winter. The rising and setting of the sun in daily rhythms. Our waking time and sleeping time. All of life is dominated by rhythms.

And yet, so much of “modern” life destroys our experience of connection to the rhythms. We wake at the alarm, we rush to get off to work, we dash from one meeting to the next, we stress about times and deadlines, we pack our lives into the short time between leaving work and falling exhausted into bed.

Though it is a challenge to do so, there is another way to live, honoring the inner rhythms, and harmonizing with them to the best of our ability, despite the stresses and pressures of modern life. This is the power of conscious co-creation: to choose our beliefs about ourselves, life and others in such as way that we remain connected to that authentic self.

Your eternal reality can be embraced more consciously by allowing a rhythmic life experience that is rather like a song.  In this way life becomes a dance, an ebb and flow of vibrant harmony and ecstatic self-expression.

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5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist
5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist

Does the New Moon Mean A New You?

Beloved Ones:

This New Moon represents an opportunity to deepen the marriage of your spiritual self and your material self. In order to do that you must sacrifice beliefs, behavior patterns, false beliefs…roles and/or identities that facilitate a disconnection between you and your essence. To sacrifice means “to make holy” or to return to wholeness.

So we are not looking to destroy these parts of ourselves! We are simply looking to return them into the sense of wholeness that is our birthright!

When you are connected to your essence you are living in a sense of flow, guidance, and inspiration. These roles and identities have formed a glass ceiling on top of what you can achieve, and how deeply you can go into your essence to manifest your destiny.

Patterns like perfectionism, and procrastination.

Beliefs like:

“I’m not good enough.”

“I need to know more.”

“It’s not safe to be seen.”

It is time to let go of identifying with these patterns, return them to the wholeness of your true self, and start listening to and obeying that still small voice of guidance within.

Birth your authentic self into the world. Take the next step, from one moment to the next. Open to receive the energy of your essence and watch the dramatic changes happen in your life! Create a New You with the energy of this New Moon. The choice is yours!

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5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist
5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist

 

Have you always felt like a stranger in a strange land? I did…

When I was 10 years old I had a thought that perhaps life on earth was really hell, only no one knew it. When I look back at that younger self, seeing how unhappy she was, how alienated she felt, I feel such compassion for her. She had no way to know that what made her different would lead her to the path that set her free.

You, too, may have felt the pain of being different, the pain of having values that do not align with what our predominant culture values, the pain of feeling isolated. Ally feels this way.

Awakening business woman
Awakening business woman

Ally is a successful business woman. She loves her work, but she has noticed that something is missing. It is a nagging feeling. An emptiness. And she has gone in search of this missing thing. She has wandered into various trainings and seminars. And she has found some answers that seemed to add to the sense of fullness for a time. But soon that nagging feeling, the emptiness, would overtake her and she would be off again, searching for something.

What is missing for Ally, and for so many women is a sense of being home. That is what I am creating here, at Awakening Women’s Conscious Community. And today I invite you to join me. Join me in creating an online home for awakening woman. A place to find:

  • Other women just like you who are looking for something
  • Other women just like you who feel that emptiness and want it filled
  • Other women just like you who have done so much work on themselves
  • Other women just like you who have so much to offer
  • Other women just like you who have a vision of how life is supposed to be in this world

Together we can co-create a world that is:

  • A safe place where our children can thrive
  • A secure place where everyone’s basic needs are met
  • A  loving place where everyone is embraced and valued
  • A creative place where we are all free to express our authentic selves and celebrate the diversity that makes life fascinating

In order to do this we all need to develop the skill of conscious co-creation. We are all co-creating already…just, for the most part, unconsciously. Use my checklist to see how far you have come in terms of learning this priceless skill:

5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist
5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist

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Ready to Find a Place Called Home?

Most people live unconsciously. They react to external circumstances and these reactions create their experience of life. They never discover their own power to respond to life, choosing responses that move them toward their intended results. Because their reactions are determining their experience and they are not choosing their reactions they feel victimized by life.

Take Paula for example. Paula is married. She has 3 children, ages 4, 7 and 9. She has a job that she hates, but she has to work in order to help with expenses and “make ends meet.” Her husband, Josh, has a job that he isn’t too happy with, but he is very successful and good at what he does. His job requires a lot of his time, energy and attention. Josh works 70-80 hour work weeks. When he gets home, he expects his dinner to be waiting. After dinner he wants nothing more than to watch some television and go to bed. This means that most of the home maintenance, and child care, falls to Paula.

Paula is unhappy, but she sees no way out. She lives an unhappy life of quiet desperation. Paula thinks to herself “Maybe when the kids are grown I can….”

There is another way to live.

Awakening women have begun to sense that there is another way to live: living consciously. This means taking responsibility for our experiences and developing the necessary skills to learn how to consciously co-create with life.

This means cultivating the ability to manage our emotional and mental states: choosing what to think and feel rather than allowing these states to be determined by unconscious reactions. You can learn how to manage your emotional and mental states! You have come to the right place!

The Awakening Women’s Community is a place dedicated to cultivating these skills and abilities in a loving and deeply supportive environment. You’ll know you are in the right place if it begins to feel a little bit like home….

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5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist
5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist

Are You Looking For An Evolutionary Partner?

If you are looking for Evolutionary Partners, you have come to the right place. Awakening Women is designed to attract the kind of woman who will be an excellent evolutionary partner. Sure your spouse or beloved can be an evolutionary partner, and hopefully they are! But all of us need evolutionary partnerships that are not complicated by sharing life and/or a household.

Evolutionary partners are a source of joy!
Evolutionary partners are a source of joy!

Primary Characteristics of an Evolutionary Partner:

  • Someone who shares your deeply-held values
  • Someone who is willing to be authentic in relationship with you and wants you to be authentic in return
  • Someone who will tell you what you need to hear even if it is not what you want to hear
  • Someone who sees your brilliance and is a stand for you to actualize your full potential
  • Knows how to listen and create a safe space for you
  • Is willing to trust you to be a safe space for her
  • Supports you to see from a higher perspective
  • Supports you to create new possibilities
  • Is light-hearted normally and loves to laugh

If this describes you, you are in the right place!

Welcome Home!

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Are You Power-Relating? If not….

Power relating is my way of describing relationships that are built on the principles of conscious co-creation. There are 3 fundamental relationships that we must master in life in order to create a life of joy and fulfillment.

Power Relationship One: Relationship to Yourself

mirrorMost of us have not been taught how to have an empowering relationship with ourselves. Were we to speak to other people in the harsh, critical way we speak to ourselves we would have no friends! There are skills to nurturing self-talk that must be learned to create a relationship with yourself that is loving. This transformative shift is critical to conscious living.

Power Relationship Two: Relationship to Life

Small children who have been properly cared for and loved show us how an ideal relationship looks: it is based on trust, complete unwavering trust and acceptance. By the time we become adults we have had many life experiences which have disrupted this unconditional trust. Faith is a choice. To live a conscious life you must repair your relationship to life.

Power Relationship Three: Relationship to Others

1285842_8_handsWe cannot become ourselves by ourselves. Life evolves through relationships. There are skills which anyone can learn to generate success in your relationship with others. Because we have had so many disappointing experiences with others we tend to think if we want something done, we have to do it ourselves. This has promoted a sense of loneliness and isolation. There is a more empowered way to be in relationship with others.

Power-Relating Comes From Your Beliefs

What you believe about yourself, life and others is the key to power-relating. Are you choosing your beliefs consciously or are you operating from unconscious beliefs that you accepted in your formative years before you had the wisdom and experience that shape who you are today. It is time to choose your beliefs and enjoy the benefits of relationships created consciously!

That is why I want to invite you to download my 5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist.

Learning to integrate the 5 keys to conscious co-creation enables you to become a master a co-creating the life of your dreams.

Key #1 is the ultimate stress reducer: eliminate exhaustion and overwhelm.

Key #2 makes change smooth and effortless.

Key #3 causes anxiety to dissolve in mere seconds, allowing you to rest in the peace that passes all understanding.

Key #4 reconnects you to your passion for living.

Key #5 opens the door to the experience of beauty, and why you are desperate for it.

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5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist
5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist

Struggling with Self-Doubt? You are not Alone!

Self-Doubt Undermines Your Destiny Path

We are Awakening Women!

We are here to fully love and fully flourish. We are here to bind our love into a sacred container to create safety and security in community with each other as we learn, and grow and evolve.

If you are struggling with self-doubt you are not alone! Most of us were raised to believe that doubt is a protective mechanism that keeps us safe. Our mothers have told us “if you are not sure, don’t do it!” The older we get, the more difficulties we have encountered in our life journey, the less certain we become. Doubt becomes a mechanism that creates a very small life. When doubt becomes bad enough, if becomes difficult to leave the house!

What is the Source of Self-Confidence?

If you have had difficulties in life, if people have betrayed your trust, if you have tried to accomplish something that was meaningful to you and it didn’t work out you may feel you have reason to doubt yourself. After all, you made the decisions that led you into these situations that became painful, right?

There is a way of relating to yourself, to life and to others that leads to a different conclusion.

When we live deeply connected to our authentic selves confidence emerges naturally.

Organic Self-Confidence

Have you ever seen a blade of grass emerge from a crack in the asphalt? This is an example of the kind of self-confidence that is your birthright! Confidence can be enhanced by our life experiences, but the true source of confidence is the expansive nature of life itself. When you are tuned into this expansive nature, everything you need to know will come to you, almost as if by magic.

Feminine Power Magic
Feminine Power Magic

In this community we are about making magic happen!

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5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist
5 Keys to Conscious Co-Creation Checklist