I have been working with a client I’ll call Susan and recently she asked me this important question: “How can I co-create heaven on earth?” It was a great question for Susan to ask because her life has been full of difficulties and challenges….not a life that would reflect heaven on earth by any stretch of the imagination.
Susan was born into the middle of a family with six children. So Susan was a middle child, and often middle children do not receive much attention. She was not a star student like her older sister. She was not talented athletically like her 2 older brothers. She was not funny like her 2 younger sisters. Susan wasn’t a “star” at anything. Plus, Susan was a quiet child, so it was very easy for her to be overlooked during her formative years.
It is not hard to imagine that one of Susan’s core beliefs was “I don’t matter.” And there were two important corollaries from that “My needs don’t matter” and “What I want doesn’t matter.” Susan spent a lot of time caring for the needs and wants of others, hoping that if she was good at helping others get what they want, that those people might give her a crumb of attention or affection.
Over time, Susan became an “over-giver” and she suffered from the mounting anger and resentment simmering beneath the surface that tend to accompany that sense of giving, giving, giving and not receiving. As our work together began to reveal her false beliefs about herself, beliefs about life and others opened up as well. “Life is against me.” “No one cares about me.” “Other people just want to use me.”
You may be suffering from false beliefs just like Susan. These beliefs serve like a filter to keep out the many infinite possibilities that life is eternally offering to all of us. That is why I want to invite you to download my checklist The 5 Keys to Conscious Co-creation. This checklist enables you to assess your co-creation skills.
Key #1 is the ultimate stress reducer: eliminate exhaustion and overwhelm. As Susan opened up to this truth her weariness and fatigue lifted.
Key #2 makes change smooth and effortless. Susan’s new perspective on herself, life and others made new options clear and more easily accessible.
Key #3 causes anxiety to dissolve in mere seconds, allowing you to rest in the peace that passes all understanding. When Susan began to release the fear that Life was against her, she began to feel much more confident and sure of herself.
Key #4 reconnects you to your passion for living. Susan began to focus more on what she wanted to express and experience which made life much more of a fun and exciting adventure.
Key #5 opens the door to the experience of beauty, and why you are desperate for it. Each present moment offered Susan delight as she learned to stay in touch with the NOW.
The experience of heaven on earth is unique to each of us! And when you think about it, of course that is how it would be. We are unique individuals with unique preferences, and unique sets of gifts and talents. The miraculous thing about heaven on earth is that it can hold this complexity, offering to each of us the experiences we long for.
As Susan allowed herself to release the choices that generated the evidence that her old beliefs were true she simultaneously opened the door of her heart to higher perspectives on her own identity. Her gift for music, always a source of pleasure in her life, opened up, and she began to write songs and perform them.
While once she would never have considered performing in front of an audience, Susan chose to face her fears and share her music openly. She found that not only was she able to play for others, but their appreciation of her music made her heart pound with joy! Performing became for Susan a powerful means of self-expression and fulfillment!
Her soulful folk songs were appreciated by many, and she developed a following in the town where she lived. For Susan, the sky is now the only limit she perceives, and it will be fascinating to see where she will go as she follows her destiny path in the the future. But wherever that journey leads, Susan is confident that her experience will more and more deeply mirror her vision of heaven on earth.