We have been looking at the transformative effects that are possible for you as you begin to practice and master conscious co-creation. In recent posts we have looked at how Rita transformed her relationship with her own creative source, which has given her more energy and vitality, as well as a deeper connection with her own faith. In a second post we looked at how Rita has shifted her experience of being disconnected from her life to a more consciously co-creative role in intending a rewarding future for herself. In our most recent post we looked at how Rita was transforming her experience of the history she has with her ex-husband, Eric, and creating a space for a new love relationship to enter her life.
In this fourth part of this series we are going to look at how conscious co-creation is transforming Rita’s relationships with her three children. When Rita first learned of Eric’s affair she was furious. The first weeks after this discovery, Rita was unable to control her bitterness and anger, and there was a negative impact on her children.
Rita’s fury caused Eric to leave his home with Rita and the children, and to move into Jennifer’s home. Rita’s anger effectively shutdown any possibility of a reconciliation, or even an amicable parting. Her absolute rejection of Eric’s choices pushed him into filing for a divorce much sooner than he might have done otherwise. Rita was so uncompromising that Eric had to get a court order to allow him to spend time with his children.
Meanwhile, Rita’s bitterness and unhappiness was a very disruptive influence in her household. The children were confused and upset, and their sense of security had been undermined by Rita’s behavior. Instead of finding comfort from their mother during this time of upheaval, the children became fearful of becoming a target for their mother’s rage.
Rita, sensing the fear in her children, blamed Eric for ruining their family life, and the destructive cycle continued to wreak havoc for all concerned for the better part of 2 years. This was when Rita finally reached out to me for assistance.
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Key #2 makes change smooth and effortless. Once Rita felt herself firmly grounded in the sense of the future she was building for herself and her family she noticed that more empowered choices were showing up for her.
Key #3 causes anxiety to dissolve in mere seconds, allowing you to rest in the peace that passes all understanding. As Rita began to make changes there were many opportunities for her to fall back into old habits of seeing and reacting. From this peace within, Rita was able to continue to be a stand for the life she so desperately wanted for herself and her kids.
Key #4 reconnects you to your passion for living. When Rita would become discouraged it was her connection to the passion of her vision for a happier and more secure future for herself and her children that kept her going.
Key #5 opens the door to the experience of beauty, and why you are desperate for it. Once Rita had tuned into the beauty of the vision of her future, that beauty became a powerful ally for her in finding the strength and courage to make new choices.
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Rita’s oldest son, Jack, was having behavior problems at school. He was angry, and took any opportunity to fight with other children, or disrupt the classroom at school. Rita’s daughter, Bethany, had become silent and withdrawn. Hunter, the youngest, was having nightmares, and had taken to sucking his thumb.
Rita realized that her relationships with her children were in serious need of repair. She and I spent time envisioning a brighter future for them all, both individually and as a family. Rita saw that it would be impossible for her children to have the stability and security they needed until Rita and Eric had made peace between themselves. Rita also knew that she would have to embrace Jennifer as a valid member of the family.
As Rita was able to own responsibility for her part in the dissolution of the marriage, she was able to forgive herself and Eric for the circumstances that had occurred. Rather than seeing the loss of the marriage as destructive, Rita opened to the possibility that the current situation could be an expression of growth and evolution for all parties. Regret was not a useful emotion to spend time with. What occurred in the past did not have to be the governing factor in her future.
Rita realized that she wanted happy and secure children. With that future in mind she asked for a meeting with Eric and Jennifer. Rita began the meeting with a sincere apology. She took responsibility for the anger and bitterness that had colored her actions in the past. She shared her desire to have an empowered relationship with Eric and Jennifer, and to work together with them to create a safe and secure environment for their children.
While it may take some time for all parties to leave the past in the past, a new foundation had been formed to co-create a future that would give the children the support they needed to flourish. At last, Rita and Eric are aligned in creating fun experiences with the children, and the children are responding well to this new development.
Jack is enrolled in a martial arts school, and is finding positive avenues for his aggressive feelings to be expressed. Bethany began piano lessons, and was finding that she had a real gift for playing music. Hunter has found a new sense of purpose and contribution in cooking with Rita. They have together time every evening as they prepare the evening meal.
Rita has been able to access a new vision for her life and her future. This vision has been the key to accessing new possibilities and giving Rita the strength she needs to make new choices. Change is challenging for human beings. As we shift our identities into the role of conscious co-creators each challenge can be seen as an opening for new possibilities to emerge. This is the true meaning of the word “empowerment.”